16 Choose-Your-Own-Adventure Service Projects

Ministry, Resources, Uncategorized, youth ministry

Just one week before our youth mission trip to St. Louis—and right before a major holiday—our only scheduled service project completely fell through. With a group of teens ready to serve and no time to secure new partners, I had a choice: panic… or pivot.

So instead of “crashing out” (as the kids say), I reimagined the entire structure of our service day.

And while most of the projects weren’t uniquely tied to St. Louis, that almost made them more magical. The youth kept asking, “Can we do this at home too?”—which, of course, was the real win.

To add: some of these are… unique. Because we had originally planned to do a VBS, I had some crafts such as Wreaths and Flower Pots that I was wondering if I could repurpose a little for service projects. But I think that was part of our magic! Many of these were also inspired from my community at Women in Youth Ministry. Need some creative last-minute ideas? These women will help!

I put the service projects on cards and laid them out on a table. Each project had a clear summary, budget, supply list, scripture verse, and a reflection question—so they were ready to completely own it.

I read the projects to the group all at once, let them talk about it, and when they were ready they came up and chose a card to do the next day. They had a half hour to plan during our evening gathering time, then the next morning had three hours to execute. I put the cash in a pencil pouch, handed it over to a youth in charge, and told them to tell our group where to go. They had full autonomy and did a phenomenal job!

Park Cleanup

Summary: Help care for God’s creation by cleaning up litter and beautifying a local park.

Budget Guide: Low ($0–$20 for gloves, trash bags, optional snacks)

Supplies Needed: Trash bags, gloves, hand sanitizer, optional sidewalk chalk

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Genesis 2:15 – ‘The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.’

Reflection Question: What does it mean to take responsibility for a space we don’t own?

Little Libraries / Little Food Pantries

Summary: Stock and decorate neighborhood mini-libraries and food pantries with books, canned goods, and kind notes.

Budget Guide: $25–$100 for books, food staples, and decorating supplies

Supplies Needed: Books, canned goods, markers, notes, stickers

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Matthew 25:35 – ‘For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat.’

Reflection Question: How does sharing anonymously still help us feel connected?

Cards & Treats for Local Police, Fire Stations, Emergency Room Workers, Etc.

Summary: Show gratitude to local first responders with handwritten cards and treats.

Budget Guide: $25–$75 for treats and card supplies

Supplies Needed: Thank-you cards, markers, store-bought snacks or baked goods

Spiritual Goal / Verse: 1 Thessalonians 5:11 – ‘Encourage one another and build each other up.’

Reflection Question: Why is it important to acknowledge people who serve in hard jobs?

Laundry Love

Summary: Leave quarters and detergent at laundromats for neighbors doing laundry.

Budget Guide: $25–$100 in quarters and supplies

Supplies Needed: Quarters, detergent pods, ziplock bags, tape, printed notes

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Galatians 6:2 – ‘Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.’

Reflection Question: How does meeting a basic need reflect God’s love?

Hygiene Kits for Shelters

Summary: Assemble and donate hygiene kits for people experiencing homelessness.

Budget Guide: $50–$100 for bulk hygiene supplies

Supplies Needed: Toothbrushes, toothpaste, wipes, soap, socks, ziplock bags. You could also make menstrual supplies kits (tampons, pads, wipes, even reusable cups/discs).

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Proverbs 19:17 – ‘Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord.’

Reflection Question: Why does dignity matter when helping others?

Water + Snack Giveaway

Summary: Hand out water bottles and snacks at parks or bus stops with affirming notes.

Budget Guide: $25–$100 for snacks and bottled water

Supplies Needed: Water bottles, snacks, handwritten notes or stickers

Spiritual Goal / Verse:: Mark 9:41 – ‘Anyone who gives you a cup of water in my name… will certainly not lose their reward.’

Reflection Question: What does it feel like to give without expecting anything in return?

Lemonade & Listening

Summary: Offer free lemonade and kind conversation in a local park or busy street corner.

Budget Guide: $20–$40 for lemonade supplies and signage

Supplies Needed: Cooler, cups, lemonade mix, poster board, markers, chairs

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Hebrews 13:2 – ‘Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers.’

Reflection Question: What can we learn when we stop to really listen to others?

“Ray of Sunshine” Baskets for the Homebound

Summary: Create cheerful baskets filled with all yellow items and handmade cards to brighten the day of members of the church who are currently homebound. Coordinate with (insert church’s name) contact list.

Budget Guide: $100 total

Supplies Needed: Yellow baskets/bags, yellow items (lemon drops, socks, journals, teas, candles, pens, etc), list from the church, handmade cards, tags for bags

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Philippians 1:3–5 – “I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy.”

Reflection Question: How can we reflect God’s light to those who may feel forgotten or isolated?

Unhoused Showers Ministry

Summary: Collect items for a local church or shelter’s Showers Ministry, which helps people who are unhoused.

Budget Guide: $100

Supplies Needed: Shower supplies – or check with the ministry’s list of needed supplies

Spiritual Goal / Verse:Isaiah 58:7 (NRSV) – “Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover them, and not to hide yourself from your own kin?”

Reflection Question: What does it mean to see someone experiencing homelessness not as a stranger, but as kin?

Our group chose to donate these items to St. Charles UMC’s Shower Ministry, but any shelter or street outreach program would be blessed by this.

Diaper Blessings

Summary: Shop for diapers in a variety of sizes and donate them to a local diaper bank or shelter that serves families in need. Create handwritten cards or notes of blessing to include with the donation—something simple to encourage and uplift parents or caregivers.

Budget Guide: $100 total

Supplies Needed: Diapers, card-making supplies

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Psalm 127:3 – “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”

Reflection Question: What does it mean to support someone you’ll never meet? How does this kind of giving reflect God’s trust in us to care for each other?

Bandanas for Pet Shelters

Summary: Create cheerful pet bandanas for animals in shelters to wear during adoption events. These small accessories can make pets more approachable and increase their chances of finding a forever home.

Budget Guide: $25–$75 for fabric, pinking shears, and optional fabric markers

Supplies Needed: Fabric from a craft stores, sharp scissors or pinking shears

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Proverbs 12:10 – “The righteous care for the needs of their animals.”

Reflection Question: How can simple acts of kindness toward animals reflect God’s love for all creation?

Dollar Tree Dinners

Summary: Create shelf-stable, low-cost meal kits. Each kit should fit in a gallon-sized Ziploc bag and include a simple recipe card. Drop off at a local food pantry to help people prepare a full meal with ease. Dollar Tree Dinners on TikTok has a examples.

Budget Guide: $100 total

Supplies Needed: Gallon-sized Ziploc bags, shelf-stable meal ingredients, index cards, markers/pens

Spiritual Goal / Verse: James 2:15–16 – “If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, ‘Go in peace, be warmed and filled,’ without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?”

Reflection Question: How can meeting someone’s basic needs also help them feel seen, valued, and loved?

Food Pantry Restock

Summary: Many food pantries are facing shortages and budget cuts. This project invites you to research a local pantry, discover their most-needed items, and use your group’s budget to shop thoughtfully. Your donations will help restock their shelves and ensure families have access to what they need.

Budget Guide: $100 total

Supplies Needed:

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Matthew 25:35 – “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat.”

Reflection Question: How does feeding someone—whether you know them or not—connect us more deeply to God’s love?

Because St. Louis experienced a tornado, we did a collective Tornado Relief drive. We dropped bags off on Monday and got them on Thursday – taking two days of our week!

Joy Wreaths for Nursing Homes

Summary: Research local food pantries and look up what they are in most need of right now. Many food pantries have lost funding.

Budget Guide: $100 total

Supplies Needed: Wreaths (we have cardboard wreaths), items from a craft store/dollar tree. Use cord/string for hanging.

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Romans 15:13 – “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Reflection Question: How can a simple, handmade gift become a reminder of God’s joy and presence in someone’s life?

Flower Pots for First Responders, Nursing Homes, etc.

Summary: Decorate flower pots and plant seeds as a symbol of gratitude, growth, and care. Pair each pot with a handwritten thank-you card and deliver to people who serve or may feel forgotten—such as first responders, healthcare workers, nursing home residents, or long-time church members.

Budget Guide: N/A – items in stock!

Supplies Needed: Thank-you cards, markers, flower pots, peats, seeds, paint markers

Spiritual Goal / Verse: 1 Corinthians 3:6–7 – “I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth.”

Reflection Question: How can small, thoughtful actions plant seeds of gratitude and hope in someone else’s life?

Create Your Own!

Summary: Come up with your own service project! Stay within budget and submit your plan to a leader.

Budget Guide: Up to $100

Supplies Needed: Whatever your group dreams up!

Spiritual Goal / Verse: Ephesians 2:10 – ‘For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works.’

Reflection Question: What needs are you noticing that others might miss?

Click here to download the simple cards I made in Microsoft Word!

Choose Your Own Adventure Service Projects Download

Navigating Faith and Sexuality: A New Curriculum

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I grew up in purity culture. I wore the ring. I signed the commitment card. I was handed a box that supposedly represented my virginity and was told not to open it until I got married. Believe it or not, I still have all of it tucked away somewhere—relics of a theology that taught me rules, but not reflection.

Then I started working in mainline churches. And I realized something: progressives don’t talk about sex in church. Or so I thought. Working in progressive church spaces is funny; I’d have one parent say, “Don’t you dare tell my kid that sex is a sin,” and another say, “Can you please tell my teen to stop having sex?” I couldn’t win. And honestly? Neither could our students.

So my assistant director and I decided to do something about it. We created a four-week curriculum on faith and sexuality—one that speaks honestly, affirms LGBTQIA+ identities, and offers students something better than silence or shame. We rooted the series in the Wesleyan Quadrilateral, a framework that invites students to consider Scripture, Tradition, Reason, and Experience when wrestling with life’s big questions—especially when the Bible isn’t crystal clear.

Does God care about our sexual lives? Yes. Because God cares about our whole lives. But what God says about sex isn’t always as black-and-white as we were told growing up. That’s why this curriculum doesn’t aim to give every student the same answer—but to equip them with tools to form their own faithful, thoughtful, Spirit-led convictions. Spoiler alert: those convictions might look different for each student. And honestly? That’s the hope.

After we shared this series with our own students, it was picked up by Reconciling Ministries Network—an affirming branch of the United Methodist Church—and is now being shared with churches across the country. Our prayer is that this becomes a flexible resource for your ministry too. Feel free to adapt, edit, and shape it to meet your context.

Just—whatever you do—don’t stay silent. Our teens are listening. Let’s make sure they hear something worth holding on to.

Series Overview

Week 1: Developing a Faithful & Healthy Sexual Ethic

Bottom Line: We should view sex through a Christian worldview.
This week introduces the Wesleyan Quadrilateral—Scripture, Tradition, Reason, and Experience—as a framework for building a personal sexual ethic. Instead of issuing rules, it invites students to wrestle with how their faith informs decision-making. The big message? Your faith can and should shape your view of sex, but it’s not about fear or shame—it’s about trust, wisdom, and grace.

Week 2: Called to a Higher Standard

Bottom Line: As Christians, we are called to a higher standard. However, we are not to shame others for their decisions.
In this session, we explore how following Jesus means choosing what’s beneficial, not just what’s acceptable. We talk about being intentional in our relationships, valuing people over objectifying them, and embracing grace instead of shame—both for ourselves and others.

Week 3: Valuing Others vs. Objectifying Others

Bottom Line: As Christians, we are called to value others, not objectify them.
This week dives deeper into two key areas: lust and pornography, and consent. It challenges students to think critically about how culture influences their views on sex, and affirms that healthy desire isn’t wrong—but using others for gratification is. We also unpack the dangers of porn, the importance of consent, and why we’re called to treat others with dignity and respect in every interaction.

Week 4: Pastor Panel Q&A

Bottom Line: Pastors answer your questions about faith and sex.
This week is dedicated to your students’ real questions—everything from “Is masturbation a sin?” to “What if I’ve experienced sexual abuse?” to “What does the Bible say about being queer and sexual?” A panel of pastors responds with love, honesty, and theology rooted in grace. This week models what it looks like to have vulnerable, faithful conversations about complicated topics—without fear and without shame.

Download Here:

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The Value of Student Activities in Youth Ministry

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This article originally appeared here: http://youthmin.org/youth-group-vs-school-activities/

One of the frustrations that I hear many youth ministers talk about is the fact that their students seem more concerned with extracurriculars than they are youth group or church.

I hear things like:

They don’t value God or the church because they miss youth group.
They think football is more important on a Friday night than a youth event.
They can’t give Jesus just 90 minutes of their time a week.

And I hear you, friends. I’ve felt like you, and I mean, I still get frustrated. But I’m a little more empathetic to the students, and here’s why.

Going to youth group doesn’t produce a college scholarship.

That’s blunt, I know. Yet, with the costs of college, teenagers are trying to do whatever it takes to help pay for it.

Now, there are things that you can do as a youth pastor to help this out:

Provide missions opportunities to help them gain community service/volunteer work to put on their resumes. Bonus: make it open to the community of high schoolers and not just your church teens (can you say outreach?).
Find a way to have more student leadership positions, so that your students can put that on their resume.
Find people within the church who can invest scholarships into some of your teenagers.

I know first-hand that you can be a part of clubs and still be active in church; I participated and was an officer in 8 clubs in high school (I’m crazy, I know); however, I didn’t do sports while in high school, which are mega-time-consuming. I also know that very few (if any) of your high school students will actually make it to the big leagues… Yet I also know the benefits of being on a team and the skills you can learn from that. They are valuable skills that I think should be encouraged.

Teenagers need to be able to spread the gospel.

We emphasize to our teenagers about going into their “mission field” to spread the Gospel. Where else can they spread it? They can’t exactly spread the Gospel in math class. There’s lunch period, but other than that there aren’t any real opportunities.

I think we should encourage our teens to get involved in clubs and sports so that they can have opportunities to spread the Gospel in real-life situations. Otherwise, when they become an adult, their only experiences of sharing the Gospel will be from Missions Projects with their Youth Group.

Jesus isn’t exclusively at youth group.

One of the biggest annoyances to me is when youth pastors say that when a student doesn’t come to youth group, they’re putting their extracurriculars over Jesus. Really? Are Sunday and Wednesday the only times that Jesus shows up? And are you really that audacious to say that what you are providing is equivalent to Jesus?

Youth ministry isn’t exclusively at youth group.

Just like Jesus just isn’t on Sundays, neither should you. We need to learn to reach teenagers on their turf.

You need to consider the culture. Honestly, if you live in a football town, why would you put a youth event on a Friday Night? You should be at the game living life with them and rooting on your student players. Maybe your students get swamped in the school year and Wednesdays aren’t the right days for you.

Ministry happens at the lunch table, at a baseball game, in a small group, in dodgeball, and in youth group. It happens in a text conversation, and also in a warm hug. They may not come to that 90 minute meeting, but is that all you’re offering them? Small groups and mentors are great alternatives to youth group–just make sure you’re plugging them in and giving them options.

Consider that what you’re offering isn’t more appealing than chess club.

This goes back to culture–what reaches your students? Maybe that senior girl doesn’t come to Wednesdays because she hates messy games and has no alternative. Maybe that middle school boy doesn’t come because there are too many girls and he needs a small group of other guys. You may have to consider that what you have going on isn’t pulling students in, and you may have to be courageous enough to do things differently.

I’m not saying to be “seeker friendly.” I’m saying be “culturally appropriate.” Jesus used parables in order to relate the Gospel in a way for people to understand it…and even that went over their heads. So while you’re not always going to get it right, at least you tried to consider your students and reach them where they’re at.

Now, I get it: There will be teens to do put up some pretty lame excuses as to why they can’t come. Love on them anyway.

What are some ways that you’ve encouraged your teens to do extracurriculars, but still maintained a healthy youth group presence?

Do You Believe in Soulmates?

girls ministry, women, youth ministry

In May, I posted this post that explains a little bit of what I have been wrestling with, in regards to how we talk to our teenagers about sex, specifically teenage girls. We have played the shame game for long enough, and I want to redirect youth ministry to a more loving and honest approach to the “sex talk.”

One of my friends that I grew up with posted on my personal Facebook page this article: My Husband Is Not My Soul Mate

This article is one I have read before and orates really well the myth behind having a “soul mate.” Too often we tell our teenage girls to just “Wait for God to put that perfect man in your life” (which I already ranted about) or to “Pray for your future soulmate.”

We say these things with good intentions, and I think there are good principles here; but what are we implying?

That they WILL get married. Not necessarily true
That there is ONE person out there for them. What a tiring search!
That their self-worth is found in a man. Absolutely not.

So what are a a few ways things we can do?

If it happens, it happens.

I think that teaching our teenagers (especially girls) that relationships are beautiful and that if they happen, they happen, that’s wonderful. But not necessarily promised.

First Love isn’t the Only Love

I think we need to teach them that the first person they date is not the one; in fact, there are many potential possibilities of the one! There have been men in my life who I honestly could have lived a good, long life with. But that doesn’t mean they are my “soul mate.” And:

There are other fish in the sea.

If you pass up a “good opportunity” in pursuit of something (or someone) else, that opportunity is not lost forever. Of course, popular music and movies would teach you different. Like I said, I have passed up some opportunities because:

God may still be preparing you.

I think it’s funny that we pray, “And God, I pray for my future husband that you are preparing for me.“ One day I realized: Maybe it’s me God is preparing for him. Why do we assume it’s the other person who God is working on? It’s pretty audacious for me to think that I’m the one waiting, when in reality there may be a guy who God has in mind to run into my path soon, but I’m the one who’s not prepared. Just. Saying.

Re-define “the perfect mate.”

Bust the bubbles of reality. I used to make lists of what my future husband should be like. I wish I could find the Bible Journal from middle (even high) school that had a points system, including:

If he loves Jesus +25 points.
Attends church every Sunday +25
Nice face +10 points.
Nice body +10 points.
Abs +10 points
Taller than me +15
Has a sense of humor +15 points.
Plays guitar +10 points.
Thinks my parents are stupid too +10 points.
Smokes -50 points
Does drugs -100 points
Must have 90 points in order to date me.

I’m not even kidding.

But as I get older— do I really care that he’s not the best at writing with perfect grammar? Okay, let’s skip that one. But does he HAVE to be over six feet tall? I’m pretty short as it is. Why do I care about things that don’t honestly matter? What do perfect abs have to do with anything; we’re all gonna get fat when we get old anyway.

All I’m sayin’ is:

Let’s be realistic and honest with our teenagers. Let’s not shame them into thinking that they HAVE to date or have relationships with the opposite sex in one, concrete way. Live life with them, let them experience what marriage is like by having married couples invest in them, and let them see that singleness is not for ugly people and creepers who are miserable.

If this stuff isn’t true, then I am one sad, miserable, 23 year old and I should invest in some cats, liposuction, and therapy.

Teenagers are…

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I started reading Fahrenheit 451 last week, and I ran across this quote and had to laugh:

Teenagers: They’re peculiar, aggravating, yet easy to forgive. They’re so much more, too–they’re creative, ambitious, crazy, sassy, yet more intelligent than adults are sometimes.

I love it.

What are teenagers to you?

Videos for Student Ministry

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HEYOOO!

I would love to tell you about a NEW RESOURCE for STUDENT MINISTRY!

I can’t tell you how many times people in our YouthMin.Org private Facebook Community post the day of youth group, “Hey, does anybody have a video for ______?”

I usually hit up Google and give half-serious, half-kidding, but all-terrible videos for them. I can’t blame them–how many times have I been an hour before youth group and gone, “I’m gonna need to fill an extra five minutes” or “I bet Francis Chan could explain this wayyy better than me” or “I need something funny to connect this truth to my students.”

That is where VideosForStudentMinistry.Com comes in!

There are many different categories. I’ll share some of my favorites for you!

Funny

Stuff Christian Singles Hear. I’ve heard 100% of these. :)

Sermon Jams

Jesus is the Victorious Ever Present God by Judah Smith. Can’t help but scream AMEN!

Music Videos

“Tell the World” by Lecrae. This is my current favorite song.

Spoken Word.

“GOSPEL” by Propeganda. 100% of youth groups need to watch this. Even white brothers gotta shout.

Clips that teach.

I am Second (Yo Soy Segundo) by Albert Pujols. I had to rep my man, even if he quit repping my city. BONUS: en español!

Go to the site, browse, and suggest videos you know! This new site is all a part of the NEW YouthMin.Org that will be launching VERY VERY SOON. My friend Frank Gil has been working hard on this!

Discipling Girls: A @youth_min Roundtable with Neely, Elle, and Bekah

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Today I had the privilege of hosting a hangout with Elle Campbell, Neely McQueen, and Bekah Miller!

Go watch and interact. I’m telling you, these women make me look like a genius for having them on this Roundtable! These ladies are L.E.G.I.T.

Fitness Goals are like Ministry Goals

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This is a shoutout to all my friends over at YouthPastorDiet.Com, and all youth pastors everywhere who are struggling with their goals for weight…and their ministry.

Here I am at 9 years old, about to run to first base. Good luck, little chunky Heather. Yes, I still run with my pants that high.

I have struggled with my weight all my life: I’m pretty sure I came out of the womb with a pear shape. In January, I decided that I wanted to begin running. Now, understand how ridiculous and hilarious this is: I have never been able to run. Like, ever. Even when I played softball for 6 years, I was terrible at running. Terrible! My mom used to make fun of me and tell me that I looked like I was running with a piano on my back.

So why did I decide to run? Stink if I know. I think it’s because I knew that I wanted to exercise more and get fit. I also have issues with migraines, and at my January doctor’s appointment I was told I’m healthy as a clam, yet my BMI is bad, like really bad. I think it’s because I was too poor for a gym membership, and I can’t fit an exercise machine in my little car. Running is free. Well, after you drop $150 on a good pair of shoes, some running shorts, a good sports bra (not just for women), and a running shirt. Cool running sunglasses optional. They’re on my list.

A few months later, my miles are 3 minutes shorter; in fact, just this morning I beat my records. I’m achieving goals, setting records, yet I’m discontent because I’m not seeing it on the scale. I thought I’d be skinnier? I mean, let’s be honest: Wasn’t that really my goal all along?

But I’m forgetting all the little goals: That my migraines aren’t every day anymore. That before, I couldn’t exercise 2 days in a row…this week I did FIVE days in a row. FIVE!!! Yes, it hurts like you-know-what… but I’ve had worse. I’m faster, stronger, I feel better. And my confidence is great. Those are all goals to be celebrated.

I think back to ministry (because I always ministry-juke myself):

We set goals for ministry, typically growth: And even though our existing students may be getting stronger, may be getting over bumps of junk in their life, may be becoming just brave enough to invite people… we are only focused on the quantitative growth. And what a shame that is!

Shouldn’t we be celebrating all the little victories! Who cares if I’m not losing inches where I want to–it’s happening! Who cares if teens’ friends aren’t coming–at least they have the guts to ask them now!

AND–maybe we need to reevaluate our methodology. So I’m running…what about that Chinese food I ate the other day?

But we use excuses for those things: Well, we always do Taco Tuesdays (order a Taco Salad, brosky). I have to go support their bake sale. Well, we’re at the baseball game, so beer and frank it is. And ladies: It’s “that time.” Yeah, well a few times I’ve beat my time on “my time” if you get my drift.

That sounds like that one excuse every youth worker loathes: “This is the way we have always done it.”

Did I make you feel bad yet?

Good.

I think I might have to go for another jog.

5 Reasons Your Ministry Needs Women Leaders @youth_min

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This post originally appeared here: http://www.youthmin.org/5-reasons-your-ministry-needs-women-leaders/

Your youth ministry needs women leaders. Before we start arguing the theology of women in ministry, I want you to hear me out: The purpose of this post is not to advocate for ordained women, or women pastors, or to argue the Pauline view of women.

The purpose of this post is to convince you why you need more women in roles of discipleship, worship, and (yes) teaching. We need to have a spread of leaders who represent the spread of the audience in gender, color, and background. So if your youth group is 60% female and 40% male, you should have about that amount of male/female leaders. I empathize that it may never be perfectly that way, but you should strive for that representation.

Girls need women leaders.

Seems like a no-brainer, yes? Young girls need to have examples of women who are leading. If we are teaching our young ladies that they need to advance the gospel, then we need to have examples of women who are actively advancing the gospel in their lives personally. Additionally, girls desperately need to hear from a variety of women. Girls need to see a picture of themselves in these roles so that they can do it, too.

Boys need women leaders.

For so long, we’ve been doing ministry so that boys can only lead boys, and girls can only lead girls. However, there are wonderful things that boys need from both men and women, just as girls need both in their development. When I began my first youth ministry position, a mother came to me and told me that her son was going to be my toughest case, because he doesn’t respect women, and that included his mother. I remember that first night of youth group–this eighth grader challenged me with every “tough question” he could muster on women, homosexuality, and president Obama. When I left two years later, that same mother said to me that her son not only respected women, but valued their leadership in his life. He became more sensitive, more respectful, and even more affectionate towards his own mother. Boys need men to mentor them, yes; yet having women as leaders will lead them to holding greater value of women.

Male leaders need women leaders.

Men and women compliment each other. You have a variety of leaders who are more playful, some more disciplinary, some more empathetic, some more protective, some more approachable, and others more on a pedestal; not to mention the variety of skills: building sets, making snacks, teaching, discipling, etc. Put people in their sweet spots, and play off their strengths. I serve in a ministry where the co-directors are an unrelated male and female, and it’s beautiful watching how the strengths play off of each other, and where one is weak another fills in strong. Think about it: why does God give children both a mother and a father? Both are beautiful and have roles that are necessary in leadership.

Women leaders need women leaders.

I will be the first to admit that I need support. I need examples of strong women in ministry so that I can do ministry, and I definitely see the effects as I begin mentoring women in ministry. We need discipleship and community, especially as a part of our female identity. Personally, it can be difficult as a female in a male-dominated profession, and I crave interaction with other ladies. So ladies, step it up! And… let’s be friends.

God needs women leaders.

God uses women for multiple tasks in the Bible, and in Acts it is said that God will use both sons and daughters to prophesy in his name. God uses some of the most random people to accomplish His tasks, so never discredit a potential leader based on their gender, age, race, or background. From Abel to Moses to Deborah to David to Esther to John the Baptizer to Jesus to the Woman at the Well to Paul… (anyone else out of breath?)… God has a knack of loving and using people who just don’t fit the standard mold.

Advice for Insecure Youth Workers @smarterYM

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My latest article is on what I would redo in my first year of ministry if given the chance….. and truthfully, what I struggle with each and every day of my life. I see a lot of youth workers within the YouthMin.Org Facebook Community struggling with this, and it has caused me to get vocal about calling out youth workers and getting them to be more secure with their selves and their ministries.

So here is my post over at SmarterYM.Com! Read, share, and comment on it! And show Aaron some love…he’s a Cubs fan :(

http://www.smarterym.com/2013/04/advice-for-insecure-youth-workers.html