12 Last-Minute Youth Ministry Ideas for AUTUMN

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This post originally appeared here: http://youthmin.org/12-last-minute-youth-ministry-ideas-for-autumn/

Subtitle: WHY FALL IS THE BEST TIME FOR STUDENT MINISTRY. ha!

I LOVE the autumn season. You would probably expect that from a female such as myself, because Fall = cardigans + scarves + PSL (pumpkin spice lattes).

But Fall is also FULL of great opportunities for student ministry. Here are some quick, easy, and CHEAP options for your fall calendar. I was rather brief, so if you’d like more ideas, hit me up below and our community can help you out!

Bonfires. Duh! S’mores, hot chocolate, PSLs, etc! Tell some really stupid ghost stores, maybe do some campfire worship, play some outside games, and try not to let the middle school boys get too close to the fire.
Costume contest. Make a themed party–80s, Duck Dynasty (if you haven’t already played that card), hillbilly, etc.! My teen sister’s church is doing a Bible-themed costume party, and her friends are going to be Moses, Bob, and Larry (Veggietales, hello!).
Host a “barn dance.” Have a little line dancing, hay bales, and country outfits. Make sure no one spikes the apple cider.
Make Hand Turkeys. I know this sounds super third-grade, but I hosted turkey parties all throughout college, and they were a hit! Have paper, cardstock, glitter, googly eyes, feathers, and lots of other crazy items to glue onto the turkeys.
Pumpkin-carving contest. Have groups compete to make the best pumpkin, and have a prize for the best group. For added ridiculousness, BYOP (bring your own pumpkin).
Fall treat baking night. This might be more for your ladies, but everyone loves fall treats! Perhaps you can bring them to a nursing home, homeless shelter, food pantry, or pass them around to your neighborhood!
Scavenger Hunt. It is the PERFECT weather for a scavenger hunt, whether you’re foraging for food, doing an Instagram hunt, or doing a Service Scavenger Hunt. Regardless, PERFECTION.
Group trips. Go apple-picking, pumpkin picking, or to a hay ride. If your church is okay with the paranormal, hit up a haunted house or corn maze. Keep in mind that they cost a bit more compared to the other options.
Fifth Quarters. Football games are great opportunities to get to know your students’ culture and peer community. Host Rated-PG parties after the football games for students with tons of pizza and games.
Rake leaves. Go rake your neighborhood. Look up all the old ladies in your church’s directory and go invade their yard. Be nice, though.
Chili/Soup Cook-off. You can do this for fun or even to raise money.
Turkey Drive. Collect all the makings for Thanksgiving dinner in order to feed families who cannot afford it.

These ideas aren’t meant to be mind-blowing, but to get your juices flowing. Have some great ideas? Post them below!

3 Basic Things Women Want in a Mentor

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Paul Turner’s blog is one of the first I read when I began reading student ministry blogs. Paul began a series on Mentoring, and asked me to write a guest blog on what women youth workers look for in a mentor.

I wrote the blog and he forgot about it for an entire month…then had the nerve to ask me where it was. ;) I’m just glad I’m not the only person who feels like she is too busy to breathe at times!

Here it is!

http://thediscipleproject.net/guest-post-3-basic-things-women-want-in-a-mentor/

As always: read, comment, and look through the other posts on his site. Cheers!

Undercover Boss

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One of my teens said the most BRILLIANT thing the other day, that I feel like I MUST share.

Jesus was an “Undercover Boss.”

You’ve seen that show, right? The CEO of a company goes “undercover” and starts from the bottom of their company, learning about their company’s strengths and weaknesses. Then the CEO redeems the company by gifting its hard-working members and bettering the company as a whole.

Jesus did that! Jesus sunk down as the lowest of the low: “Hey ya’ll, I’m just a carpenter!”

Jesus learned about how the leaders were corrupt, how those who His Kingdom was to serve weren’t being served properly. When He redeemed everything in the end, He didn’t just give a few raises; but He gave eternal life to whomever. That’s pretty legit.

Then in the end, He’s all like, “By the way, I’m the CEO of the WORLD.”

So, I maybe translated it a little differently. But this HAS to bring a smile to your face :)

Refined

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I’ve been super-busy lately; too busy to really blog or even think sometimes. But I have made time to read (it helps I conduct a study time with my teens at work).

As I’ve talked about recently, I make it of importance to constantly surround myself, through reading/news/media/etc, with material that challenges my worldview. A year ago I read “Year of Biblical Womanhood” by Rachel Held Evans. It was definitely something that challenged my existing worldview, and I was told to check out “Voices of the True Woman Movement: A Call to Counter-Revolution” by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (and others, including John Piper). Can’t get much more polar opposite than that; ha! Here is an excerpt I loved on page 122, one that anyone can relate to and grow from:

A real stone like (a wedding ring diamond) can take a good scrubbing, you know. Authentic jewelry is not as delicate as we think. That’s why God can say, as He did in Zechariah 13:9, “I will…refine them as one refines silver, and test them as gold is tested.” I long to be a jewel that does not cringe when God chooses to give my soul a hard scrubbing every now and then.

Now I’m not glorifying the suffering it takes to polish my faith. But I AM glorifying the God whose image is reflected on the surface of any smile that is forced to fight through pain and problems to get there…It will be the glow of HIS godliness in your life–HIS patience, HIS perseverance, gleaming through your eyes.

The fire hurts. But it really does make things clearer and allow for God to shine through.

Called…even in transition

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This post originally appeared on : http://youthmin.org/called-even-in-transition/

I resigned from my church a little over a year ago, on a conviction to move back to St. Louis and take care of some family matters. It was tough. I assumed that because God was calling me to do this, He would open up a church position for me in no time. But after 100s of resumes and 3 months unemployed, I accepted a different position at a ministry group home to teenagers. And a year later, I’m still there and still looking for a church job.

At first, I questioned God often: “Why, if you’ve called me to youth ministry, am I not in a church?” I didn’t understand.

A year later, I’m finally getting it:

Calling isn’t a career, but a lifestyle.

Take life by the horns.

Quit being so miserable. Spending my days obsessing over how I wasn’t in a church and nobody liked me and blahblahblah was a waste of time. And you, if you are “in transition” like myself, should not waste your time being miserable because you aren’t “fulfilling your calling.”

Find contentment. That is not, “Well, this is the best it’s going to get, so I’m just going to deal…” Truly find a way to enjoy life and love it.

Another thing: are you making your family and friends miserable with your misery? Take it from somebody that got told to “shut up” … just be content and learn to love life where you are.

Quit putting your calling in a box.

I thought that because I was called to youth ministry, that meant that I was only fulfilling that calling by working in a church. I think my friends and family would laugh at me saying that I’m not fulfilling my calling right now: I work with teenagers 250 hours a month at my job. I volunteer in a local church. I work for a youth ministry website. I honestly think that I just really enjoyed feeling sorry for myself, and I needed to find contentment.

We are all called to minister…and sometimes God calls us to do specific ministries to specific peoples. You may not be in a church, but there are plenty of other ways to minister to teenagers. There are group homes, youth organizations, or churches in need of the best volunteers they could ever ask for.

Put your calling in current context.

So maybe you aren’t able to work with churched teenagers… there are still others out there who need the Gospel; in fact, they need to hear it more. Use this time to use your calling to reach those who are unusually unreached.

You are called to minister to people, not to a building.

PS… if you are reading this and want to hire me, I’m game.

Creating A Culture of Acceptance in Student Ministry

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I got the privilege of guest-posting on Timbo’s blog on how to best create a culture of acceptance in student ministry. This topic is important to think about as we plan our programming out for the year, train volunteers, and pray over our students!

Check it: http://studentministrycentral.com/guest-post-heather-lea-campbell-creating-a-culture-of-acceptance-in-student-ministry/

This article isn’t about Miley (It’s about you, jerk!)

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Okay, that was the name I came up with AFTER this was already published. I’m semi-glad I went with the first one ;)

This article originally appeared at: http://youthmin.org/another-article-about-miley-cyrus/

In an interview with Sunday People, Miley Cyrus said, “I have so many f**king issues. I am so f**ked up -– everyone does dumb stuff when they are messed up.”

If you keep up with the news in any sort of fashion, you know–at least, on the surface–what is going on with Miley. Some say that she’s a mess and that we can’t let our children around her. Others say that her behavior is nothing new, that she’s just being your average 20-year old; so why are we all tripping over it?

Here is what I have to say:

Miley is broken. So are we.

Miley has been in scandal after scandal over the years, as all stars have. And frankly, it’s easy to sit here and judge her; she’s in the spotlight for all the world to see. But I have to ask myself: If I were in her position, and people saw my baggage and what I was going through, how would I feel about their reactions, if they reacted the same way that we are reacting to her?

Miley came out with a new video on Monday from her new single “Wrecking Ball.” Unlike “We Can’t Stop,” this is raw. The lyrics show a glimpse of what is going on. Here are some of the lyrics:

I put you high up in the sky
And now, you’re not coming down
It slowly turned, you let me burn
And now, we’re ashes on the ground

Don’t you ever say I just walked away
I will always want you
I can’t live a lie, running for my life
I will always want you

I came in like a wrecking ball
I never hit so hard in love
All I wanted was to break your walls
All you ever did was wreck me

Obviously, Miley is going through something. From her disconnected relationship with her father, to her on-again, off-again relationship with her fiancee, to just growing up (she’s 20 years old!); she’s dealing with things.

Let me ask you something–are these issues all that different from any other 20 year old? Not really. But because she is in the limelight, she is being judged. Being 20 years old is hard enough; you are trying to discover your identity and define your place in this world. Now imagine being a girl who spent her childhood as a star? Imagine your family business being aired for all to see? Imagine trying to be 20, but everyone judges every move you make because it isn’t “Disney-esque?”

Another issue I see–and I’m going to be blunt: For us to sit here and judge Miley, who to our knowledge does not have a redeeming relationship with God, is wrong. Also, what good is it going to do? Is condemning her honestly going to lead her to Christ? What if, instead, there were Christians in her life who supported her, provided her guidance, and maintained a “safe zone” should she slip? By demonstrating Christ through our actions, we are building a bridge that can show Miley Truth. How would you have liked it, if in your rock bottom, a bunch of people just started putting your business on blast, talking about how much you have changed, how despicable you are, and how they don’t want you in their homes or around their families?

(And to be even more frank: talking about Miley in a way that does not edify her is gossip.)

That is NOT CHRIST, guys. He met sinners where they were and lived life with them; yes, He gave them truth, yet he lived life with them regardless. Paul says in Romans that while we were still sinners Christ died for us! Not when we had our act together, but when were still in our messed up rock-bottom.

I’ve been reading through Romans lately and meditating on the passages. The first chapter of Romans sets up the story of Creation and The Fall. Then Paul lays it thick in the first verse of chapter 2 (emphasis added):

Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things.

Paul continues in chapter three:

None is righteous, no not one…For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

If I had people judge me at my rock-bottom the way Miley is being judged, I would probably have been turned off from God. I wasn’t perfect; I shook my toosh too (in fact, twerking is not a new term). I wasn’t wise about my relationships with boys, I cursed like a sailor, and I was teaching Sunday School on Sundays hungover. I wasn’t where I needed to be. Even now, I don’t make the wisest decisions sometimes. But I have people who have honest conversations with me, who don’t judge me, yet still give me Truth. They don’t condemn me, they don’t act self-righteous. They invite me to live a raw life with them, helping me through my sin and being patient with me when I don’t get it right away.

Here is my idea–I think we should be talking about Miley and other pop culture icons with our students. But instead of focusing on what Miley is doing wrong, what if we were to ask: “If you saw one of your friends going through this, what would you do?” “If you were in this situation, what would you want people to do for you?” Instead of alienating Miley’s situation, let’s try to identify, empathize, and exhort her.

Humble yourself. Think about your rock-bottom. What got you out of it? How can you translate that to working with your students in their rock-bottoms?

3 Things We’re Getting Wrong Reaching Girls

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I had the privilege of guest-posting over on this blog!

I first read Titus’s blog when a mutual friend of ours posted a link. I digged it. I commented. He saw my comment. He messaged me on FB, because he saw we had all of these mutual friends and it freaked him out. Then we realized we literally lived in the same part of St. Louis at the same time, and he pastored some church members who I used to go to church with. Whaaaat? So I had to show some NoCo love and guest post for him. This is one of my favorites! :)

3 Things We’re Getting Wrong Reaching Girls: a Guest Post About Student Ministry.

Balancing Liberal VS Conservative Worldviews

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Trying to find the balance between the “uber-religious-Bible-thumping-conservative” and “uber-worldy-Bible-ignorant-liberal” worldviews can be TOUGH.

First-off, it is a false dichotomy; but just like with American political parties, there is a pressure to align with one or the other.

So I do what I’ve always tried to do–read a variety of sources that are conservative, liberal, and all in between–to challenge my existing and developing worldview.

But some days, like today, I just want to hit my head against the wall.

God has gifted me with the spiritual gift of empathy and exhortation. This gift means that I understand where people are coming from, for the most part. So I can read one side and go “wow, I totally see where you are coming from. not sure if I agree, but I get it” then read the rebuttal and go “ditto.” Or, sometimes, I read something (from both sides of any issue), and can go “What kind of crock is this?” How is it not one or the other? How can it be both? How could it be neither? I grew up with the worldview that it was one or the other…and that’s a worldview that we all kind of get stuck with.

Some of my recent posts on teaching sex to teenagers raised some eyebrows from my conservative friends, who thought I was pushing a little heretical. Which made me laugh, because…uh… I’m still fairly conservative, just a little provocative in thinking. At least, in my opinion. I was even told by a friend I was bold for posting these, as she wouldn’t if she was looking for a position in a church like I am. But then this morning, I was told in a comment to an article on Facebook that I was teaching sexism to my girls. So what am I? Am I a liberal feminist? Or a conservative sexist? Surely I’m not both.

These are the woes of a young evangelical trying to own her faith. And do you think I’m the only one experiencing this? How about all people in their twenties are going through the same thing…yet we don’t have a place in our church to help them out. That’s another soapbox for another day.

Here’s the take-a-ways from this random rant:

Own YOUR faith. Don’t just follow along with whatever you were taught as a child, or what your pastor teaches you, or what your parents tell you, or what popular media tells you. Don’t take things at face value.
Read/watch/immerse yourself in varying materials, materials that challenge your existing worldview. Yes, you will want to hit your head against the wall like me. But you will be able to identify (1) what you believe (2) why you believe it (3) rebuttals to your view (4) why others believe what they believe. You won’t have to claim ignorance.
Don’t feel pressured to be “one” or “the other.” Christ, Paul, and the early church made Pharisees and sinners alike cringe at times. You’re not going to fit into some pretty, packaged box.
It is okay to feel confused when it comes to faith. Just look to Christ. Strive to live like Him, and all that other stuff will fall in line or fade away, depending on how important it truly was.

Check out this photo by Andy Mineo http://instagram.com/p/dmfkNJRtvI/ I saw it and went BINGOOO.

Love God, serve others, seek the Kingdom, be like Christ.

Cut the Crap: Get Transparent

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This article originally appeared on: http://youthmin.org/cut-the-crap-get-transparent/

When I went to the Simply Youth Ministry Conference in March, I was stoked. One of the biggest blessings that I had was being able to meet so many people that I have networked with over the last three years in the blogosphere. I had some really encouraging and hilarious conversations with many people who have a decade more experience and eons more wisdom than I.

One thing that showed up in our conversations is their affirmation of the characteristic in myself that I sometimes hate: my transparency. I was often told that my transparency is what sets me apart, and never stop showing that. This was encouraging for me, as I rarely get transparency from people as much as I show it, and one of the biggest things I struggle with in the personality of youth pastors is their lack of transparency.

So, session after class after conversation, this theme showed up. In a large-group session, I was pushed to visualize my struggles and let them go. In this session, we were encouraged to write all of our junk on a hackey sack with a marker. I wrote junk after junk after junk on this thing. Then we had to get in a small group and share one thing. I looked around and saw some very empty hackey sacks, and heard some even emptier answers. When it was my turn to share, I clammed up. Yes me. I walled up and let out some answer that was half the truth, because the rest of my group couldn’t share their junk. Then we had to group-juggle our hackey sacks, which could have been a great exercise to show the fact that we sometimes not only juggle our junk, but others’ as well…except my group wanted to make a systematic “1–2–3″ countdown in order to pass ours around. It showed me that even though I may be transparent, and others may say they want more transparency, many still won’t show it.

So youth pastor, cut the crap. If we can’t be transparent about these issues with one another, then we have a serious problem.

Transparency is hard, I get it. We are afraid that the truth will drive others away. We are fearful that if we were to get real with one another, we may be looked at as a Negative Nancy.

But what transparency does is worth it: First off, it makes you feel better. You realize that someone out there gets it. You begin to understand that you are not the only person struggling with what you are struggling with, and you can solve the issue together.

We are in ministry together.

One of the things I love is the Facebook group community that YouthMin.Org has. Many youth pastors are transparent on there and share their struggles…and even if not publicly, they message myself and other contributors and share their junk with us (and I with them).

One passage that I meditate on time and time again is in Philippians 4, and I’m sure you can quote this by heart: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

But we forget that next verse: “Yet it was kind of you to share my struggle.” We struggle with junk after junk, but not alone. We do this as a team.

Feel free to contact me or anybody on the team, and let’s do this together.

Heather Lea Campbell

Youth Pastor for Youth Pastors

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